God made Eve because it wasn’t “good that the man should be alone” and God wanted to “make him an help meet for him” (Genesis 2:18). Are we a help to our husbands?
In the context of the sentence in Genesis, the word “meet” is used as an adjective that means “proper, suitable and fitting.” God made the woman to be a suitable helper for the man. Is our treatment of our husband fitting?
The Bible overflows with examples of marriages – those that worked well and those that displayed a dysfunction that surpasses today’s. I’d like to spend a few words comparing two wives in the Old Testament.
Shortly after the death of Samuel when Israel mourned and God had rejected Saul as the king, David, and his small army of 600 warriors, fled from the wrath of Saul. During their sojourning, they happened upon the shepherds of a Carmelite and protected them from other vagabonds.
At the time of shearing, David asked for some provisions from this man. The man, named Nabal (actually means fool, and we’ll see how well he lived up to his name), refused to be generous to David. In fact, he insulted David so severely that the future king sought retribution.
This is when Abigail steps onto the scene. “She was a woman of good understanding, and of a beautiful countenance” (1 Samuel 25: 3). Notice her character was mentioned before her countenance.
Abigail went behind her foolish husband’s back to send a gift of food to David and his army. She delivered it in person. Meeting these battle-prepared men on the road, Abigail fell to her face and interceded on her husband’s behalf. Her wisdom saved the entire household from destruction.
Nabal certainly didn’t deserve the wise wife he had, but Abigail didn’t let her “churlish and evil” husband keep her from being an admirable “help meet.”
This next woman doesn’t have a name, so I’ve given her one – Mrs. Job.
Let’s face it, Mrs. Job suffered more devastating loss in one day than any human being should be forced to endure. In the face of this loss, her husband blessed the Lord.
On the backside of this, we don’t know how soon afterwards, Mrs. Job lost her health. She was covered in boils from head to foot.
Her husband was also suffering from all these losses, but he sat down in ashes and prayed to the Lord.
Mrs. Job’s response? “Dost thou still retain thine integrity? Curse God, and die” (Job 2:9). So much for being a wise, supportive helper suited to such a “perfect and upright” man.
Job called her a “foolish woman.” The Bible said he did not “sin with his lips” in saying this.
Which wife do you resemble? Whether your husband is a fool or a godly saint, God expects you to stand beside that man and be his helper.
Coming next week: Abigail’s Wisdom (I know I mentioned her this week, but there is so much more we can learn from this wise woman.)