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The 21st Century Virtuous Woman Part 2: A Trustworthy Wife

“Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies” -Prov. 31:10

People don’t get married because they don’t want to commit to just one person. Marriages don’t last. Men and women have affairs, breaking the most basic marriage vow.

It’s no wonder that people don’t trust each other.

This isn’t God’s way. He wants marriage to last and both parties to be content in the meantime. “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord” (Prov. 18:22).

If we can live up to the standards God shows us in The Model Woman, this verse can be true for our husbands.

His Trust

“The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of [honest] gain or need of [dishonest] spoil” (Prov. 31:11, AMP).

Notice that he’s not worried about anything. He has confidence that she is looking after his family and home and only has his best interest in mind. Everything he asks her to accomplish, he knows she’ll come through.

If a man stops to talk to her, her husband can tell by her posture that she’s just being friendly. Things are passionate at home, so he knows he doesn’t need to worry about her “looking for love in all the wrong places.”

The last part of this verse indicates that he’s not afraid to leave the checkbook at home. Okay, in this day and age it’s more likely a debit or credit card, but the inference is the same. He trusts her to follow the budget he’s outlined. She’s careful of his “honest gain” so he doesn’t have to resort to dishonesty to pay their bills.

Her Actions

The virtuous wife is always thinking of ways to promote her husband. In the Amplified Bible, verse 12 expands her actions to include comfort and encouragement.

The next time you nag your husband to fix the sink, take out the trash, mow the yard or put air in the tires, stop for a moment. How could you rephrase your request so he feels bolstered? The attitude behind the request should always demonstrate our love – not our impatience.

Men don’t want to admit that they get down. Society emasculates them when they show emotion or weakness. Break out those pom-poms and become your husband’s biggest cheerleader.

If you admire him like Lois Lane, don’t be surprised when he becomes your Superman.

The Payoff

Did you know your husband has a reputation based on your actions?

Check out Proverbs 31:23. This husband had status because his wife took such good care of his physical and emotional needs that he could focus on pouring himself into his job.

“A virtuous wife is a crown to her husband” (Prov. 12:4). My husband prefers a baseball cap. But wait! This is a kingly metaphor. A crown shows position, power and prestige. A wife who is doing her part for her husband adorns him with all those things.

All of your good deeds won’t go unnoticed. Even if you’re married to the absent-minded professor, his happiness can be your reward.

“Her husband…praiseth her” – Prov. 31:28b

Up next week: An Industrious Personality



Freelance writer and editor whose background in education and BA in English Language & Literature amps her love of all things books. Twenty years of parenting and 26 of marriage gives unique insight to her preferred audiences of women, young adults, and teenagers.

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