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Judging the Mature Way

Judge yourself

The inherent problem with judging others is that our own flaws get in the way. But there is a Biblical way to judge.

“Thou hypocrite,” Jesus said in Matthew 7:5, “first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.”

Step One
Stop being a hypocrite.

hypocrite-definition.stevedeaceHypocrite basically means a play actor. You’re pretending to be something that you’re not – generally, something better.

If you want to play judge to other people, you need to get real. Get a clue about your own “besetting sin” (Hebrews 12:1)

Step Two
Check the Mirror First

“For if we would judge ourselves, we should not be judged” (1 Corinthians 11:31).

Once you’re honest with yourself, it’s time to open up God’s Word and let it reveal your own sin and weaknesses.

Most people find this to be such an exhaustive state that it leaves no time for judging others. I think that’s the point.

Step Three
Determine if you’re hindering others – if so STOP

In Romans, the command is given to not judge others followed by an exhortation to judge something. “Judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother’s way” (Romans 14:13).

Our attitude trips other people up. When we appear to never make mistakes (or aren’t willing to admit them when we do), it keeps others from growing in Christ.

Why? Because the newborn babes are looking to the supposedly mature Christians for an example. If all they receive is condemnation and self-righteousness, they’ll soon be discouraged and quit.

So, there is a scriptural method for judging. The steps again:

  1. Stop being a hypocrite
  2. Check the mirror
  3. Stop acting like you’re sinless

How about you, my friend? Have you learned that the only judging (on a personal level) the Lord condones is self-examination? Are there other steps in this process?

Up next: Five Ways to Measure your Success



Freelance writer and editor whose background in education and BA in English Language & Literature amps her love of all things books. Twenty years of parenting and 26 of marriage gives unique insight to her preferred audiences of women, young adults, and teenagers.

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